Growing Pains

Parenting is hard.

I mean, really hard.

When they are young, you are tired.  You are watching them closely.  Guiding, directing.  You have the constant responsibility of making sure they are fed, had enough sleep.  That they are polite to others and learn to share their toys.  You answer a million questions a day.  All the "whys".

There were days that I swore if I heard "Mommy" one more time - I would change my name or even run away!

It's so much easier to blog when they are younger.  They do so many cute things to make up for the crazy and everyone relates to you.  It's not so easy when they are older.

Now there is this fear that you are sharing too much - embarrassing them.  Putting things out there that they may not like becoming public knowledge.  And maybe you don't either because you feel like you blew it in the parenting department.  It makes it so much harder to write about.


As we are in the middle of the teenage years - and the beginning of High School - there are so many things that I could talk about but don't.  Those bone-headed things that teenagers do - and our boneheaded reactions.  When will I ever learn to respond rather then react?????

In the beginning I was holding tight - now  I'm letting go.  This stage is by far - the hardest.

Seriously.

It involves more faith and trust than I often feel that I have.

I've been here a lot lately - thus the fact that my last blog entry was from July!

This stage also involves so much more prayer.  Well - not that I didn't pray a lot before but I guess I felt like, because they were still so little, I had more control.  And I guess I did to some degree.

Now my prayer life consists of a lot more begging and pleading.  Asking God to give me the strength to let go and trust him with my son - AND asking Him to protect and guide him since I am no longer with him 24/7.  He is becoming his own person with his own thoughts and opinions.

The things that I see in him involve the heart.  And unfortunately, often it is easy to focus on the negative.  The things that you know need to change - but that change can only come from God working in his heart.  Not his mom giving him a lecture.

For the past several months, I have been really praying that God would draw him in.  And that he would grow his faith.  This is probably one of the most scariest prayers because I look back on my own life and I know that my faith grew/grows the most in trials and difficulties.  No one wants to watch their child go through difficulties. We want to protect them from them.  But - is that really helping them? 

Jarod was handed a huge blow this week.  I won't go into details in order to keep his privacy and because this involved another family and I don't want to distract from their great loss.  But I will say that I knew immediately that this was part of what I had been praying for.  I also learned that this wasn't just about Jarod's faith growing - but mine as well. 

As I sat many times crying with him this week, I just continued praying that God would use this in his life.  

I watched him grieve - but I also watched him stand tall and do the difficult things that he never had to do before.  I heard from others how Jarod had affected them positively and the impact he made.  I learned what an encourager he is to his friends and I could see how God has been using him.  I watched how he would analyze a situation before getting involved.  How he had the wisdom to speak up or stay quiet when needed.

He handled this with such strength and maturity for a 15 year old.  As I watched, I could see God working.  I could see God using him.  I could see God growing him.  I could see God answering my prayers and for a brief moment - letting go didn't seem so scary.

When Jarod was entering Pre-K and I was scared out of my mind - (Pre-K - ugh!  I knew NOTHING! LOL)  God spoke to my heart and said, "Cami, trust me with him.  The things I am allowing for him (good AND bad) are so he will become the man I need him to be later."

I go back to that nugget constantly as I pray that I can completely trust God with my son.  Knowing that no matter what comes his way - it has a greater purpose.  And God loves him far more than I ever can - and that is impossible for this mother to grasp.

Today - I am so proud of this guy - and the young man that he is becoming.  And I am thankful for a God that is full of grace and mercy.  That doesn't give up on me when I fail as a parent.  And who has a purpose and a calling for my son.

The Return of Butticus

Last year, I wrote this post.  I let you all in on one of the secrets of the Franklin household.  If you haven't already done so, you probably might want to read it so the rest of this makes better sense.

Ahem......

So - Butticus never showed up last year.  In hindsight, I really believe that he was thrown away.

Upon seeing all of the Elves return to Facebook this year, I was determined to find a new Butticus!  I thought about calling Anne's former Sunday School teacher, but explaining why I wanted to know where she got her tiny babies was going a bit too far.  She may read this blog - who knows?  But, ya - didn't want to talk about how Baby Jesus has been turned upside down, been re-named Butticus and used to play a crazy game all through the holidays.

I did the next best thing - I went online!  I looked at all the images of "Miniature Plastic Babies" (that was a little creepy at times!) and found one that I thought was the same.  (It has been two years.)  Ooooh!  $1.99 for 6 of them!  Perfect!  If he got lost - I would have spares!

I ordered him (them) and they arrived yesterday.  I said nothing to the kids and waited until they went to bed.  I opened the box and this little guy was in it.

Nope - not the same.  Not near as cute and much bigger then I remembered.

I went ahead and put him out.  I started easy - so he could be found quickly.

But something just wasn't right.

Jarod found him first.  He came into our room and said, "Uh - why is there a weird baby on the faucet in the bathroom?  That's NOT Butticus."

Great.  That was a waste of $1.99 (plus shipping)

Now what?

Jarod was a good sport and hid him on Anne's backpack so she could find him easily.

She found him and the first thing she said was "Butticus!!!!  Let's do this all year - not just at Christmas!!!!"

Okay - well, obviously the deformed Butticus didn't bother her.  But I was going to Hobby Lobby today and I thought I would check there and see if they had any babies.

Sure enough!  Butticus!  The REAL Butticus!  Should have just gone to Hobby Lobby to begin with!  They are awesome!

Another $1.99 and I could have the REAL Butticus (complete with the crazy mohawk looking thing on his head) and a whole litter of 15 more!  Yay Hobby Lobby!!!!

I came home and secretly switched him out.  Anne discovered him first and said (with the brightest and most excited face) "Ah!  The REAL Butticus!!!!  The other one was just wrong, Mom."  Well, at least she was a good sport about it earlier!

We like this one so much better!  He's probably half the size of the other (Only slightly larger than my thumb nail) and his butt is so much cuter! Don't you think?

Anne went off immediately to hide him and I could hear her giggling at herself from the other room.  Here's where I found him -

Ugh!  This girl!!!

As a friend said, "Nothing says Christmas quite like Butticus being eaten by a Giant Nutcracker!"

The Butticus tradition is in full swing!  Here are a few places he's already been spotted today - 

 He's just so much cuter on here than the other one!!!!

 Joseph's head.  Really, Jarod???

Nothing like being mooned while reaching for the Wii remote.....

So - this is Butticus!  Prepare to see photos on Facebook.  If you can post your elves, we can post our Butticus.  Besides, I was told today that, "He's so awesome that Elf on the Shelf wears Butticus jammies!"  I think I agree!

Until next time......

Oh Tooth Fairy, Where Art Thou?????

Anne lost a tooth several (ahem) ....... months ago.  The Tooth Fairy has yet to come so she resorted to her own methods to get her attention.  I found this taped to her bedroom door this evening when it was time for bed.

Cracks me up!  Guess I need to find a few dollars - maybe more to cover her wait time. 

Ashlea & Colin

I was only home from New York about 3 weeks and I was on the road again.  Well, actually it was a plane headed to New Jersey.  But at this point it doesn't matter.  I was off and running!

My cousin, Ashlea (Sasha's daughter) was getting married!  After dating for 10 years, Colin finally proposed last Christmas.  Everyone was so excited!!!  They live in New Jersey, and Colin's parents live on the Jersey Shore.  Having spent lots of time there, the Shore was the perfect place for their wedding.

I was privileged enough to help with addressing the invitations -

I absolutely LOVE what Ashlea came up with!  So fitting for her beach wedding.

I have another Aunt and Uncle (Scott & Cindy) that live in New Jersey.  The plan was for me to fly in, meet up with them and all ride out to the shore (about an hour away) for the weekend.  I got to their house, we began making preparations to leave and they turned on the news.

We all sat glued to the TV as we watched this unfold - 

 Seaside Park 

 This was about a mile or so south of where the wedding was going to be.

Soon it became a 6 alarm fire as all of those 100 year old, wooden buildings went up in flames.  We were told that both roads to the shore were closed.  Wow!!!

My Aunt and Uncle decided to risk it anyway and we all piled in the car and headed to the beach.  Fortunately, we were able to get on the island and meet up with the rest of the family.  The only real glitch that this caused was that Ashlea's flowers were delayed a bit.  But once those were finally in hand, everything began to go smoothly again.

 

Flower Preparations

Lovely!

Ashlea putting all the flowers together for the reception tables.  They turned out so beautiful!

I had the privilege of contributing further by working on her place cards. 

She named the tables after some of the favorite places they have traveled to.

Finally it was time for the dress!

Ashlea & Colin

Siblings!  Tricia, Ashlea and Drew - Love these guys!

Tricia & Jimbo

Not only is she my Aunt, but she is a Best Friend  - LOVE this lady!!!!

Drew, Amanda & Max

 Max with Grandma & Grandpa

More cousins!  Me with Darla & Dina - can you tell we are related?  

Uncle Scott & Aunt Cindy

Marcia, Scott, Me, Tricia and Uncle Jack

 With the beautiful bride

Sisters

Congratulations Ashlea & Colin!!!!

We are sooooo happy for you!!!!

May you share a long and wonderful life together that is filled with many happy memories!  Know that you are loved and it was an honor to be a part of this celebration!!!

The End of Summer

The kids return to school this Tuesday and I sit here wondering what happened to all the time I thought I had!  Where did it go? 

Jarod actually worked a lot this summer!  We are so proud of him.  In between Scout Camp, Youth Camp and other summer activities, he did not want to just sit.  So he asked me to put the word out that he would do yard work.  He has stayed incredibly busy weeding, mowing, and cleaning up yards.  Doing just about anything that is needed.  He's really done a great job and we have enjoyed watching him take on the responsibility. 

He's had a lot of changes this summer.  He cut all his hair off and got rid of the glasses.  He's grown a few more inches and is voice is squeaky.  It was fun to watch his friends do a double take at his orientation the other night - no one recognized him.  He's becoming so grown up. ***Sniff - sniff***

In the last week, I've often found myself staring at him, wondering when this young man came to live at my house.  The years are winding down and we won't have him under our roof much longer.  Then he opens his mouth, picks on his sister or does some other crazy 13 year old thing and I roll my eyes, shake my head and think - "Oh!  We have so far to go!!!"

He's starting 8th grade this week.  I don't think I will have all the ugly crying like last year - he's pretty settled and doing well in Jr. High.  I'll save that for this time next year when he enters High School!!!

Anne is entering 3rd grade and I believe she is excited to return to school.  She's had Dance Camp, VBS, sleep overs and other fun things to keep her busy but she has also had a lot of down time.  She thoroughly enjoyed our vacation this past week.

We decided to take off for a few days before school started.  Russell found a place in Central Florida that offers Free Pastor's Retreats.  We were thrilled to get away and play as a family.  We have found that we do best in ministry if we can physically get out of town for a few days at least twice a year.  Russ doesn't shut down like he needs to if he stays in town.  So we try to make this happen as often as our schedule will allow.  That is not always budget friendly so this place was perfect!!!!

Camp Gilead was awesome.  We had our own, newly renovated, apartment and because there were no camps going on while we were there - the kids had free reign! 

I think this is my favorite shot from the week!

The lake was the best!  Not to mention we had it all to ourselves - how fun is that?

 Anne LOVED the trampoline!

 Jarod taught us how to play Carpet Ball.  He taught me well - I kept beating him!  :-)

Anne was the champion at Connect Four!

And these were the best!!!!

We spent one day at Bok Tower Gardens.  I do not know how I have lived in Florida most of my life and never heard of this place!  It was so much fun!

How beautiful! 

 Although I have to admit that I felt a little "Lord of the Rings" like while driving up to this tower! 

 Way cool!

The 205 ft tower contains 60 bells that chime every hour.  Anne is standing inside what would be the largest bell in the tower.

The tower is surrounded by 50 acres of gardens and a 12,900 square foot house known as Pinewood Estates.  

  We went for a tour......

 Loved this door - reminded me of "The Secret Garden"

We paused for a run through the mist 

LOVE this!

Looking at the tower

As you can see, it was a great time!  We are gearing up now for school as we head into Fall. 

I leave on Thursday for New York City!  I'm so excited!  Shelley asked me to come and help her with a Trade Show in Manhattan.  Marilyn (Shelley's mom) will join me on Wednesday evening and we fly to NY on Thursday.  We will spend the weekend setting up and the Trade show is Sunday through Tuesday!  I'm so thankful for the opportunities God continues to give me through Apparent Project.  Each one leads/prepares me for the next.  This is going to be awesome!

Can't wait to share with you!

Until next time.....