In order to have all of the back story on this post - read my original post here:
Adoption Day for the Bennetts (You will be blessed - I promise!)
Now - to bring you up to date......
This is Carter. Isn't he adorable? He came to the Emily and Bruce as a Foster child when he was just a few weeks old.
I'll admit - we thought they were crazy. This made 4 boys in the house. Their biological son, Zander, was 10, their adopted son, William, was 2 and they had another Foster child, Oliver, who was 18 months at the time. Now they were adding an infant! This was a busy house!
Carter was such a good and easy baby. Russ and I had been fingerprinted so we could help them and would often go over and watch the boys so that Bruce and Emily could go to appointments or just have a night out.
The boys all bonded very quickly. William especially LOVED
his baby brother! As Carter grew, he fit right into the Bennett clan and kept up with Will and Ollie - no problem!
Ollie was officially adopted and made a Bennett in May of last year and they wanted to add Carter to the "official" list as well. Last Fall, after a series of many God moments, Bruce was offered a new job in New Hampshire. They knew that they were supposed to take the position but what about Carter? They couldn't leave the state with him. He was still a Foster Child and if they all moved, he would go back into the system.
After much prayer, Bruce accepted the job in New Hampshire and began work November 1. He went ahead, leaving Emily and the four boys here in Florida. At this time, things were working in their favor and it looked as if the adoption would be final by the first of the year. Any of you who are familiar with adoption and the "system" know that that is not always the case. Lots can happen to slow things down and get everything complicated. Zander, their oldest, moved to New Hampshire with Bruce in January. Things had been postponed again and they wanted to allow him to get into the school system during the Christmas Break. At this point, they still thought the adoption would be late winter, early spring.
This left Emily here in Florida with the 3 babies. 3 boys - 3 and under in age. Alone. Need I say more??
This has been one incredibly long emotional roller coaster for them. Emily and I have spent many hours on the phone talking through and processing all the crazy things that have happened. Their family has been physically separated and undergone emotional stress and financial sacrifice for 9 long months in order to adopt Carter.
That is what I call unconditional love! There were so many times when Emily was tired, lonely and just plain done. There were even times that they wanted to give up because it became so very difficult. But they knew that giving up meant giving up Carter all together and they simply could not do that. There were times when it all seemed in vain - things were not going in their favor and he would be taken away anyway. Was all of this sacrifice in vain?
I am proud to have the Bennett's as my friends. This past year they have been an example of faith and unconditional love. They have sacrificed and have thrown up their hands to God. They have begged and pleaded and prayed and loved and let go. They have willingly let go of their plans, their ideas, and their will. They have walked this journey and brought honor and glory to God. They have continually worked to enhance His reputation - to let Him work.
I am so happy to say that yesterday - ALL of their prayers were answered. ALL of their sacrifice was worth it! All of their hardship is finally over. After a few words from a kind judge, Carter is now officially Carter Ashton Bennett.
Russ and I again had the wonderful privilege of standing up with them and being a witness to the adoption yesterday. What an honor it was.
William 4, Oliver 3 1/2, Carter 2
These 3 adopted boys will now grow up together in a loving, Christian home. Each one has his own unique story about how he was loved and wanted deeply by Bruce and Emily.
Adoption is such a beautiful process. But it is not without pain and much sacrifice. I look at the photo of these three and think of their stories. Funny how God works to build our faith. Will's adoption was private and very uneventful. There was much prayer that went into it - but compared to the others, it was very easy. Oliver's was a little harder. A longer process - somewhat of a roller coaster - but mostly a waiting game. But it didn't matter as much (looking at it now) because the family was all together. Then there was Carter. Much more of a fight - more of a roller coaster - more of a sacrifice because everyone was separated. I can see each one as stepping stones of faith. God working in each adoption - little things to prepare Bruce and Emily for the next. New things each time to trust God with. New things that were out of their control. If Will's adoption would have been this difficult, I wonder if there would have been an Ollie and a Carter?

God is so good. It has been amazing to watch Him work in this - to see Bruce and Emily's faith grow before my very eyes. To watch them trust Him with things that were out of control and then to see God reward them so magnificently! I have been able to be a close part of their lives as they went from Emily being a business woman - to her desire to stay home - then their desire to adopt a child - then two - then three. God has used this to grow them and shape them. What a wonderful testimony they have. It has been a long journey. 5 years. And I have to sit back and say, "What's next God?" You have built this faith in them for a reason. Everything has a purpose - everything builds on the next thing you have for us. They have proven themselves to be faithful and obedient. I am excited to see what is to come! It won't be easy - but you have prepared them and you will continue to be with them.
As an outsider, looking in - it's awesome to see a family who has completely trusted God, allowed Him to do his work - no matter how difficult - and then watched the outcome be so rewarding. Please don't get me wrong - there have been tears, there has been anger, there has been frustration. But - if all of us could have this kind of faith - this kind of stamina - this kind of willingness to allow God to do whatever he needs to do to grow and change our lives. What an impact we could all have on the world. He loves us - Oh how He loves us!
For now, their next journey is New Hampshire. I'm not even going to attempt to go there right now. My heart breaks at the thought. The movers are coming and they will be leaving in 2 weeks. I am excited for them and the next chapter God has called them to - as a family of 6.